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Qualities That Keep You in a Sick System

The attention the sick systems post is getting is, ah, rather overwhelming. I'm so, so happy that y'all have found it useful in what clarifying what happened to you. I'm sad and astonished that so many people had the same experiences. When I wrote it I was thinking of a few extreme situations I've found myself in or watched friends flounder through, so I considered sick systems rare and deeply pathological. What y'all are saying, both here and in conversations around the net, is that almost everyone has gotten stuck in a sick system at some point in their lives, and that they're an inground part of life in some slices of the world.

Something is wrong.

This is where I'm supposed to follow up with What to Do to Fix the World, but the answer is: nothing. You can't fix a sick system from within unless you have power, and you can't fix a sick system from outside, period. You can't compel people to leave. You can convince them to leave, but the moment that convinces them is individual, like enlightenment striking a monk because his master made a joke about a spade. And when a stuck person chooses to leave, it will be long, long, long after they should have gotten out.

So instead I offer you a list:

Qualities That Keep You in a Sick System

Loyalty
Patience
A strong work ethic
Optimism
Self-sacrifice
A need to be useful to others
Forgiveness
Farsightedness
Trust
Hope

You don't need to lose these qualities to get out. But if you're stuck and trying to figure out what's keeping you in, remember that people rarely get stuck because of their vices. They're usually caught by their virtues.

Comments

igosm
Jun. 17th, 2010 11:49 am (UTC)
I think the best way to fight a sick system is to get out. This is tough right now. If people won't play then the system would fall apart. At least I hope so. It's just awful that so many people can relate to this.
issendai
Jun. 22nd, 2010 10:05 pm (UTC)
This is very true. I think that's why the endings to many Hollywood comedies are so satisfying: There's that moment when the evil person is unmasked, and everyone around him or her turns on them. Cue the looks of scorn, the pithy comment that someone's been waiting the entire movie to make, then everyone turns away en masse and walks off into their new, abuse-free lives. We want to see that moment on the screen because it never happens in real life. Never.

You're right, the best way to fight it is to not be there. And that's the hardest part, because it's natural to want to do something about the situation, and there's nothing to do.

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